In order to express feelings productively, you can do the following:

Adopting a Leadership Mindset

By embracing a leadership mindset, one can visualize how much of an impact their actions will have on others as you set an expectation of being considerate when expressing yourself (Muller, 2019, para. 4). You want to ensure that your feelings are conveyed in a manner in which your team dynamic is not negatively affected. A leader will make certain that their group is set up for success through their actions. By adopting a mindset like this in regards to expressing yourself are you able to maximize your ability in communicating emotions in the best manner possible.

Identifying Problems as Challenges

Focussing on solving a challenge as opposed to a problem allows for less frustration and stress (Muller, 2019, para. 5). When processing anything as a problem there is a negative connotation attached to it. For example, problems are commonly perceived as threats which are in turn linked to decreased motivation and performance (Muller, 2019, para. 5). If we look at the inability to express feelings as a challenge instead of a problem, there is more of a drive to overcome it. Focus can be directed towards expressing feelings and mapping out ways of accomplishing goals. Once we begin classifying anything as a problem, the result is decreased motivation, severely diminishing the chances of achieving the end goal.

Using I Statements

Describe any behaviours or circumstances that affect you or others by using “I.” Statements that begin with “I” sound less threatening than starting with “you” (Contributor, 2020, para. 4). I statements allow for more sympathy, empathy, and understanding. The threat of perceived personal attacks is also mitigated, decreasing the likelihood of misunderstandings.

Staying Calm and In Control

Emotionally charged discussions can interfere with the constructive resolution of problems (Contributor, 2020, para. 14). It’s crucial to speak in a calm tone and offer to continue a discussion at another time if the other person becomes defensive. Sometimes time is needed to absorb information before reacting appropriately.

Communication

The underlying theme seen in the previous two modules is communication, as it is single handily one of the most important elements in establishing success in collaboration. Communication plays a key role in expressing emotions effectively. A weakness in this area often leads to misunderstandings and conflict, leading to a reduced quality of work. The skills of EI, including Self-Awareness, Self-Regulation, Motivation, and Empathy, all begin with understanding yourself but end with your ability to convey this intellect to others. By comprising interpersonal skills, one can express themselves effectively as they are the foundation for communication.

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Contributor, C. (2020, Oct. 15). How to Deal With Insults at Work. Chron. https://work.chron.com/deal-insults-work-10486.html

Landry, L. (2019, Apr. 03). WHY EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IS IMPORTANT IN LEADERSHIP. Harvard Business School. https://online.hbs.edu/blog/post/emotional-intelligence-in-leadership

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